He Holds Me Forever Series: A Great Big Hug that Lasts Forever, Part 1 | Theresa Ingram

@bettysims9284 says:

My boyfriend (of 6 mo.) and I are reading Chip’s book, Overcoming emotions that destroy. In the book he discusses avoiding words, such as “should, never, and always.” I am trying to avoid those words, but it is so difficult because I’ve been using them my entire life. Whenever I use those words, or accidentally use accusatory words, or forget to use the “ I feel _____when _____” template, my boyfriend gets extremely angry with me and accuses me of not taking the book seriously. He has raised his voice at me, slammed doors and thrown the book across the room. What is a proper way for him to correct me and help me avoid using those words instead of getting angry? Maybe if the advice came directly from you, he would be more open to it. He has suffered a great deal of trauma in past relationships. He is 51 years old and has been married and divorced twice. Both wives cheated. He is a wonderful and Godly man in so many ways but he is hurting. I am 54 and widowed for 13 years. I want to show him empathy and grace and support his growth in becoming a better person. Please give us some insight. He has read so many of Chip’s books.